Threatening with a weapon is illegal. Threatening with a gun because somebody is angry you hit them with your car is dumb.
She drew the gun because she was being advanced at physically by an angry woman/group.
You can agree to whatever you want to. She or he should have gotten out of the car and apologized for his driving.
Anything else is asshole behavior.
But you're okay with that, I get it.
She got out with the gun with an intention to point it. There is a reason the law says that what she did is a crime.
And remember, Bambi, you're the one who keeps saying people should just obey the law. Except when it is a white woman facing a black woman, I guess, since this is the second time this week that you have defended law-breaking.