"Having kids would be wonderful, honey. But they might hack us to death and steal our money when they are older. We'd best not." I understimated the originality in your thinking, bambu.
We tried.
I wasn't keen...had just left the war of high school, the war of fighting with father with screaming matches in the living room most nights over the Vietnam war draft ["nuke em", "forcing me into the military is Nazi Germany", "all the way with LBJ, baaah"...I said], …..and a few short years later I was then gonna have to fight with toddlers, 9 yr olds, 12 yr olds, then teenagers...my head was hurting from the pain.
But as a dutiful Christian boy ["go forth and procreate" or whatever it is] and dutiful husband I went along with the idea.
Many miscarriages later [women in the family had lots of trouble ] I went off the idea.
I went totally off the idea when a man at work informed me that women die in pregnancy and childbirth.
More men die at work in many jobs.
But I think you made the right call - viewing it as you did as war would have made it hell for any offspring you might have had.
I wasn't married to a man.
The thought of losing my wife in pregnancy and childbirth was too much to bear...so I suggested adoption.
Local adoption...long waiting list.
Overseas...not encouraged, and made far too difficult.
So we 'raised' the neighbours' children instead.
Always had children in the home.
"Your soup is much nicer than mommy's soup".
Little dogs to play with, ice cream, extra food for dinner if still hungry from dinners at their homes.
Shopping with mrs bambu…"now you must be good"...good with mrs bambu...play up merry hell when with own mother/s.
Only could visit inside when mrs bambu was home.
I played games out in the front yards with them … wouldn't want people getting the wrong idea, would we.